How to Disappear and Transform Your Life

If you want to change your life, you will have to disappear. Absolutely disappear.

I am not asking you to vanish for years. You could disappear for just a couple of weeks. Maybe a month. And come back as a completely different person altogether. You will come back and shock everyone around you.

You can bounce back. You can disappear and come back stronger. Over and over again.

Why you need to disappear

If you stay around the same people, in the same circumstances you have been in for years, listening to the same friends, surrounded by the same environment, your thoughts will stay the same. The same conversations. The same energy. The same patterns. You will remain influenced. You will stay distracted. Nothing will change.

If you truly want something in life, you have to give it 100% focus and obsession. Until you give that thing your undivided attention, you cannot achieve what you truly want. If the same people stay, the same circumstances stay, the same conversations and energy stay, nothing will change.

You have to cut off from all of it. That is why disappearing is essential.

Proof that this works

Elon Musk. After selling PayPal, he disappeared. Locked himself in a room and started learning engineering and aerospace from scratch. He had no background in physics, engineering, or astrophysics. When he came back, he launched SpaceX. It became the first private company to send a rocket to orbit. SpaceX has now accomplished missions that even NASA could not.

Steve Jobs. He was fired from Apple. After that, he completely disappeared. He bought Pixar, the animation movie company. Then he returned to Apple with a bang. After his return came the iPod, the iMac, the iPhone. He disappeared, came back, and changed the world.

My 10th grade transformation. In 2008, I was in 10th grade. My entire friend circle was average students. My family told me to get serious. There were financial problems at home. I was the eldest son. I had to do something.

I went underground. Reduced going to school. Stopped talking to most people. Started studying intensely. My friends called me a nerd, called me crazy. I did not care. When the first exams came, I was among the top students. I almost doubled my percentage, from 40-50% to 80-90%. When my friends saw me again in 11th grade, they were shocked. They told me to my face: what happened to this guy, he has completely changed.

December 2016. My first company was a year and a half old. We were bankrupt. Two loans on our heads. No money to pay employees. Pressure from home. College was done, placement was done, I had left my job. Everyone was worried. What is this kid doing?

I disappeared again. In two months, I built an animation video company, learned a new skill, became a freelancer, started getting projects, made money, paid off all loans, paid the entire team. Came back with a bang.

April 2017. Started dropshipping. Paid my mentor everything I had. Whatever was left, I kept for ads. For one month straight, I did nothing but product research, running ads, creating video ads, building designs, making P&L sheets. Within two months, we crossed 90 lakhs in sales with 15 to 20% profit margins. My life changed in those two months. When I posted about it on social media, everyone around me was shocked. What has this guy done?

I was not doing this to impress anyone. My intention was simple: once I decide on something, I put all my focus on it and I do not stop until I get it.

2021, COVID. We were at the peak of dropshipping, shipping from China to the US. Then China went into lockdown. All our orders got stuck. I had placed a massive order with my Chinese supplier. All my money was stuck with him. He said he shipped the orders, but everything was stuck in China's postal system.

My customers had already paid. They started filing chargebacks on our payment gateways. The gateways banned us. Our balance went negative. They started refunding customers from our account. I had already paid the supplier. Double loss. Money gone to the supplier who says he shipped. Customers demanding refunds. Payment gateways draining our balance. Slapped on both cheeks.

One of the most difficult times of my life. I went underground again. Started a new store once lockdowns began lifting. Had some of the best months ever. Bounced back with more profit than we had ever made.

January 2023. I paused all my businesses except our clothing brand. Let go of the entire team. Told my partner I did not know what to do next. Maybe we would not do anything at all. Absolutely disappeared. For 20 to 25 days, I did not talk to anyone. Went underground. Read books, went on walks, meditated, watched TV, did whatever I felt like.

Then I came back. January, February, I relaunched my personal brand. Started YouTube again, Instagram again. And we have grown tremendously in the last two to three years through the personal brand. The game completely changed after that.

When I noticed this pattern, I realized something. Every single time I leveled up in life, it was when I disappeared and transformed myself.

The five steps

Step 1: Set a target. Ask yourself what you want. And more importantly, ask yourself why you want it. Your why needs to be strong. If your why is not strong, you do not actually want that thing badly enough and you will give up. You need a strong reason so that when things get tough, when you are deep in the grind, you stay. You do not come out until you have conquered it.

Step 2: Disconnect. Delete all social media. All apps. Get busy. Tell your friends whatever excuse works. There is a wedding at home, something personal, whatever. So they do not disturb you. At most, tell one or two people who are closest to you. Your best friend, your partner, your parents. Otherwise, do not tell anyone. Stop going out. Stop talking to anyone. Stop sharing your plans with anybody. Keep it to yourself.

Step 3: Follow a plan. Make a plan for what you will do once you disappear. If you do not know how to achieve your goal, get help. Find a mentor. Read a book. Watch YouTube videos. Find a guru. But you need a clear plan in front of you. What am I going to do with this time?

Step 4: Execute like a maniac. Once the plan is in front of you, follow it blindly. When I was in school, my tuition teachers told me there would be daily exams. I showed up. They told me to revise every day. I did it. When I started e-commerce, my mentor told me to research one to three products daily, test them, create video ads, run ads, manage suppliers. I did all of it. Every single day.

Do the work as if your life depends on it. Take it to your ego. Tell yourself: this is about my self-respect now. I am going to make this happen. This is my challenge to myself.

Step 5: Reappear. Come back. You do not have to announce it to the world. You do not have to prove anything to anyone. The only person you need to prove it to is yourself. That what you wanted, you were able to do.

When you feel it, people will feel it. What you feel inside will be visible to everyone around you. You do not need to declare it.

Monk mode

When you disappear, activate monk mode. Become a monk who has disconnected from everything and can focus with unwavering attention on one single thing. Someone who can achieve whatever they set their mind to.

Put your full focus on the thing you want. The thing you desire. The thing you are working toward.

The intention behind disappearing and transforming is not to prove something to others. It is to prove it to yourself. That what you wanted, you could do.

This is how you disappear and transform your life.